You’re a modern woman- you’re busy. You might be juggling school, work, family, and relationships. It’s a lot for one person to handle. You’re expected to be a superstar.

Except when it comes to your love life. Many women still believe that they need to adopt a passive role if they want to be successful romantically. Nothing can be further from the truth. Whether you’re a young girl embarking on her first relationship or a mature woman reentering the dating world, your prospects will be better if you take charge of your life.

Own Your Body

Your body is miraculous. It lets you move, eat, think, experience the world. You don’t have to apologize for the way your body looks. Yet, many women fall into the trap of feeling bad about their appearance. If you’ve reached a point where you feel as though you would be most happy by making modifications to your body, consider plastic and cosmetic surgery. “Studies have shown that self-esteem and confidence are directly linked to physical appearance,” says Revivology, a surgical center that specializes in plastic surgery in Utah.

Relationships struggle if they’re infected with insecurity. That’s what happens if you worry about your looks too much. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make changes or improvements if you want. Just don’t feel compelled to.

Be Assertive

See a cute guy that you’re interested in? Ask him out! This isn’t the 1950s. You don’t have to wait for him to make the first move. Real equality means it doesn’t matter who asks who out. Because women asking men out is still relatively rare, many men would feel flattered if it happened to them.

If you’re a shy person, you can try making the first move on a dating app. There’s less pressure involved.

Be Adventurous

When you’re falling in love with someone, you can enhance the feeling by experiencing new things together. To do this, you have to be adventurous. You can’t do new things if you’re not willing to step out of your comfort zone.

Now, you should never let your date pressure you into anything. We’re talking about expanding your horizons on your own.

Update Your Style

When you’re in a funk, it’s easy to grow lazy with your style. You simply don’t care as much. If you decide to start dating again, you should upgrade your style. Change your makeup, buy a new t shirt, do something to remind yourself that you’re a desirable, sexy woman. Confidence is one of the sexiest traits that a woman can have. It’s not easy to pull off. Fake confidence can read as arrogance and be jarring. But almost everyone is charmed by a truly self-assured spirit.

Be Kind

Everyone makes mistakes. You shouldn’t be a pushover but you also shouldn’t expect your date to be perfect. He or she will do things that annoy you. If it’s just a minor slight and they didn’t mean to offend you, try to be kind about it. Kindness will make everything easier.

They say that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. This is particularly true in relationships. You should be your partner’s biggest fan. If you’re not, you need a new partner.

Be Patient

Love takes unusual forms. You may find it with the first person who you go out with. Or you may need to wade through a string of potential suitors to find the right one. Be patient. There’s no timeline for your love life. Many people have found love later in life. And many young people are late bloomers. You don’t need to keep up with anyone else.

If you’re not having any luck finding anyone, expand your horizons. Meet more people. Go to parties, sign up for dating sites, see if your friends know anyone.

Relationships aren’t easy. Living with another person is too difficult. You have to adapt to another person’s habits. Even the perfect partner will be annoying sometimes. Yet, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t steps that you can take to give yourself a greater chance of romantic happiness. If you follow the steps outlined above, you’ll be in a good position to find the right partner.

Cite this article as:
Editorial Staff, "How to Take Control of Your Love Life," in Medicalopedia, February 27, 2020, [Permalink: https://www.medicalopedia.org/8415/how-to-take-control-of-your-love-life/].