If you are reading this article, chances are you have recently lost someone you love… my sincere condolences to you and your family. The loss of a loved one can be a seemingly unbearable situation. Here are 5 tips for constructively working through your grief.
1. One Day At A Time
If we have learnt anything as a species, it’s that our emotions are largely what separate us from other animals. That is not to say that animals don’t think and feel, it’s just not on the same level as we do. It is important that you give yourself time to grieve. Grief is not a race you can win. Take things one day at a time, time will not heal all but it certainly helps you with your new normal. Be patient with yourself – some days will be better than others and it is important that you acknowledge and accept that.
2. Familiarise Yourself With The Process
If the thought of cremating your loved one’s body is simply too much for you to handle, then it is a good idea to familiarise yourself with the process. You may be wondering “How Is A Body Prepared For Cremation?” This is a perfectly normal thing to think about, after all – that is the body of the person who was so special to you. You don’t have to get too involved in this process, just educate yourself enough so you can avoid feeling guilty.
3. Take A Shower
Although you might not feel like taking a shower or brushing your teeth, it is important that you maintain your personal hygiene. Being clean is an instant mood booster, not to mention it’s good for maintaining good health. This might seem like the hardest thing to do in the whole world, but trust me – if you do it one step at a time, before you know it you’ll be all fresh and clean. Play music in the shower or listen to a podcast if you don’t want to shower in silence.
4. Don’t Be Hard On Yourself
Don’t push yourself into trying to do more than you’re comfortable with. If you don’t want to see people right away, then don’t. Your friends might think they’re being helpful by getting you out of the house, but if you don’t feel like you’re ready then don’t do it. Take your time in processing each step of your grief process, you cannot rush through it and everyone grieves differently.
5. Keep Busy
Once you are ready and able to leave the house, it is important that you keep yourself busy. Go for a walk and get some exercise – exercise is so good for both your mind and your body during the grieving process. Start a new hobby or pick up an old one, anything that will keep your mind occupied. Grief comes in waves – you won’t always know when the next one will be triggered but you will be less likely to sink into a depression if you’re keeping yourself busy.